Have you noticed that once a kid turns 13, the school holiday entertainment tap switches abruptly off? Vacation care, day camps, even activity workshops seem to only cater for kids aged 5-12. After 12, presumably kids are free to roam the neighbourhood while their parents are at work.
But your kid is barely 13.
I don’t know about you, but I’m not comfortable with leaving my 13-year-old home for longer than an hour or two. Max is a good kid, and reeeeeasonably conscientious, but I would not want to rely on him in a crisis just yet. The other day I came home early from a meeting, stopping off in our downstairs garage to unload a few things. I heard the ping of a text message and checked my phone. It was Max.
“Mum, there’s someone in the garage!!!!!!!!!!!!! What should I do???????????????????” it said.
I rest my case.
What do parents that both go out to work all day do with their pre-teens and early teens? Or maybe your kids are better equipped to deal with whatever the day throws at them than mine seem to be. I know many friends who have kids at home during the day while they work. It depends on the individual kid and family.
But back to the activity thing, because I really want services to step up. Why aren’t there more things going on for teens? There’s a youth group club thingy next to our local library – the ‘Hub’ or something. I think kids can drop in there to hang out, but it’s kinda weird when it’s full of 16-18 year olds and your 13-year-old.
They split the 5-8-year-olds from the 9-12-year-olds at vacation care, why can’t they do the same for teens?
I was thinking that some great day camps for young teens might be things like:
- Coding
- Sports
- Video making
- Blogging
- Writing
- Public speaking
- Acting
I did find a few things like this, but they were all mega-expensive. Like, more than $150 a day. I haven’t paid that much for someone to look after Max since he was in daycare 9 years ago! How can it be that expensive to look after a teen and teach them a couple of things?
Am I over-thinking this? Do the bulk of people just leave their 13 and 14-year-olds to their own devices and I’m sounding like a helicopter pilot right about now? Anyone who has read my blog for more than five minutes knows that I do not have my pilot license, but I do suddenly feel a bit hovery.
Should I just trust Max in a crisis?
“What if it wasn’t me in the garage?” I said to him later, when we’d unpacked the terrifying experience of hearing the garage door rise when home alone.
“I would have been ready for them,” he said. “I had my Fijian neck breaker souvenir and the element of surprise.”
Indeed you did, Max. Indeed you did.
Just bring Max to my place. He can entertain my 5 and 7 year olds!
What a good idea!!!!
Does max stil like farm animals??? There are some great riding schools that offer day holiday courses or he could volunteer for riding for the disabled and brush a few horses. Nida has some FANTASTIC camps…. but they are pricey…..
there are also great learn to surf weeks or day tennis camps for teens that are not too far from you.
Thanks for the suggestions. I’m lucky to work from home most of the time, so it’s not too much of a hassle. I just wonder what other parents do with their kids and why the care dries up at Year 7.
I hear you! This is why Meetoo only covers up to 12 year olds as after that there is crickets other than some drama programs and coding classes (which are crazy expensive). Technology I guess has helped… but I can’t imagine leaving my teen alone for days on end if I am working full time in the future. Maybe half a day of tennis clinic and then joining with other parents to take turns in hosting the kids for the afternoon- love to hear what other do!!!
It’s one of those chicken and egg things: is the demand not there so there are no classes, or is there no demand because there are no classes?
I’ve been leaving my older son home alone since he was 12 and I had no choice. Luckily, I’ve been working for myself and at home for the majority of time, so don’t have to deal with this, but totally agree that there should be affordable activities for teenagers in our communities. I’d love to get rid of mine every now and then and have him do more than play video games all day.
That’s the thing: sociable options where they get to do cool things would be nice!
It’s really tough. My now 13yo started year 7 this year, he’s on the spectrum & I’m not comfortable leaving him home alone so I have to be home when he is or take him where ever I go. I’d love there to be some better options, especially as he doesn’t want to hang out with mum…
I have a feeling there’s a huge business opportunity here for someone enterprising!!!
I love that text!!! Made me smile.
I have no answers for you I’m sorry. We’re lucky that we both work from home. In fact we’re often the ones looking after other people’s kids in your predicament. I hope you find something for him that suits everyone.
Is there a farm nearby?
I wish!! ? Ther are plenty of mates, though. It works out ok. I mostly work from home, so we are lucky too.
I know it is crickets after Yr6 really. I guess the assumption is that at high school no-one wants to be babysat!
I’m seeing a big opportunity there! Gosh I wish I lived closer to you! (Actually can you move this way you would get the most amazing home for the price you could sell yours and change!!!)
I think you said it above : total business opportunity! Our local youth centre does stuff like barista courses etc. I’m not looking forward to that, although thankfuloy my most sensible child is the first.