How I unspoiled my kids

Mary's House

I shared an article on my Facebook page a couple of weeks ago, that was shared again and again. There is a lot about the article that I don't agree with (the headline, for one thing), but there was a lot in there that really resonated with me. I am hyper-aware of how it is all-too easy to spoil our kids these days. In many, many ways, my kids ...

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My best isn’t good enough

My Best Isn't Good Enoughv

"We're all just doing our best." Honestly? If I hear that phrase one more time I will scream even louder than I screamed the last time I heard that phrase. I simply detest it. "Best" is quite possibly the blandest word in the world. What does "best" actually mean? Well, though the dictionary defines it as "of the most excellent or desirable ...

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Avoiding drama (aka wiping off the ugly)

Avoiding drama

I am a simple person with a simple outlook on life and unless I'm watching it on stage or screen, I absolutely despise drama. If I feel so much as a solitary goosebump of drama, I will get away as fast as possible. Well, best not to run, but I'll do that walk-run thing you do when you see so-and-so on the other side of the street and you know it's ...

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I’m not ready for high school

Ready for High School

Max says he's ready for high school. "We're forming a gang, Mum," he tells me. "It's gonna have all the boys from my class who are going to our high school in it. We might ask other boys on the first day too. There's gonna be 20, maybe even 100 year 7 boys in it. We'll go around in a pack." Yeah, he's ready. Careful, Max, careful. It's taken ...

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Oh so scary sleepovers

Scary sleepovers

When I was a kid, I used to love sleeping over at my friends' houses. I loved the break in routine and the sneak-peek into how other people lived. One friend's mum would make a chocolate cake and let us do the icing, piling it on 2 cm thick and then eating the lot in front of the television. Another friend was an only child and it was sheer bliss ...

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Periscope parenting

Periscope parenting

I've decided I'm tired of second-guessing my parenting all the time. Bone weary. I think because I write about parenting, I edit parenting, I live parenting, I'm SUBMERGED in parenting that sometimes my periscope just isn't working. I shouldn't need a periscope at all; I've simply got to come up to the surface. Fact is, parenting isn't a ...

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Bad things happen when good people do nothing

The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil - Edmund Burke on Maxabella Loves

I get that we feel inadequate. I get that we don't know how to help. I get that we feel that someone else is better qualified. I get that we're worried about our own safety. I get that we feel like it's none of our business. I get that we think they're on drugs. I get that we have to put our children first. I get that we might embarrass ourselves. ...

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The truth about losing

Truth about losing

I've written before about the remarkable resilience of my son. He's the kid who always gives things a go and I am incredibly proud of his grit and willingness to put himself out there. It is one thing to go in the race when you are the kid who has a chance of coming first and quite another when you have no chance of winning at all (we salute you, ...

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Is parenting really only good in hindsight?

Is parenting really only good in hindsight?

We sent out the Cappers' birthday invites yesterday and it suddenly hit me that she's nearly ten. Cue enormous quantities of nostalgia. My Cappers has always been a delightful kid to parent and her first decade really snuck up on me. At least, I think that's true. I don't know any more. I had a three kids in about four years and Max was all of ...

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10 tips for overcoming fear of change

10 practical ways to embrace life's changes

This one is for me. I'm about to make a major change in my lovely little life and it's rather scary, but good scary. I mean, good scary is still terrifying, but it feels right so at least there's that. I will let you know what that change is and more very soon (and forgive me for all the vagueness of late, but all will be revealed shortly). In ...

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