The trouble with being a fixer

The Trouble with Being a Fixer

I'm a forthright person who calls it like it is (or at least how I think it is - very important point there... ahem), so I can sometimes run into a spot of bother. See, when you're used to being open and people respect you for that openness, your filter isn't called on all that often. It gets rusty and often doesn't work very well. The elephant ...

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Skinny people are nude, fat people are naked

Skinny people are nude, fat people are naked

For a little while when I was at university, I made some pocket money doing nude modelling for art classes. It was a job, like any other and I was grateful to be part of so many artists' learning. I'd arrive at the studio, head to the dressing room and take off my clothes, throw a gown on, enter the studio and off would come the gown. I'd then do a ...

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Body neutrality

Body neutrality

Is learning to 'love your body' really the goal? Because if it is, I think it's an impossible goal for many of us. I think the whole 'body love' thing backfires because most women aren't blind and we're none of us stupid. Mind you, I do feel stupid when I listen to 'body love' messages that suggest I do things like give a little wink and a smile to ...

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Wanting our kids to be someone they’re not

Wanting to be someone

Tess Bartlett from Whisperings of the mind wrote a post for Blog Society about comparison that blew my mind. So many insights from a very wise woman. Tess talks about using envy to absolve yourself of any responsibility for your own achievements. She says, "If you base your sense of meaning and accomplishment on what you don’t have, you are never ...

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Judging others and how to stop

You know how we all judge but we know it's wrong to judge so we all pretend we never judge? We say things like, "whatever works for that family" and "she's doing what's right for her" and "she's living her own truth" and stuff like that? And then deep inside we're actually saying, "OMG, what's with that?"We judge for a few reasons, I think. The ...

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The beat of my drum

Two brilliant bloggers have raised me up this week. That's me at the top of the mountain, waving hello and beating my drum.Al's post over at the Fibro about making time to write really struck a chord with me. Not the bit about feeling like I should be mothering 24/7 and not doing stuff for myself. I don't feel like that at all. I reckon I give my ...

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